Sucking it up and coping with circumstances kept me from truly being alive.

 

Sound familiar?

I always had a huge smile and heaps of positive energy.  I survived Cancer twice and had a rewarding career.  I was alive, therefore, I had it all!

Or so it seemed...

MY STORY

At the age of 21, two months after graduating from college, I was diagnosed with cancer.  I had exploratory surgery, my spleen removed, then four months of daily radiation.  I worked full-time and although the pain was excruciating; I pushed through.

I was again diagnosed with cancer, this time stage 3 and had eight months of chemo, while working full-time.  

My heart was weak, and my lungs compromised from radiation therapy.  My doctor was uncertain I’d live.  

I was fighting, surviving, and tolerating it all as best as I could.

I mastered the skill of accepting and coping with life circumstances.

PAULA CONKEY

Life & Career Coach

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I kept my needs to myself and focused on being strong.  To do so, I often ignored my wants.  Dreams of the future did not exist.

 

My time was spent either at work or the doctor.  I was most comfortable around medical staff and having a procedure was my 'normal'.  I chose to laugh at the scary things that occurred and quietly wanted my life to be more than appointments or FEAR of the unknown.

My problem was that I identified only with survival.  I was capable of so much more, but was lost somewhere between having procedures and choosing to be strong.

I lost my hair and my friends.  I also worked in an environment where the team resented me for needing days off for chemo.  

 

I felt guilt and shame which began my journey of working too hard and apologizing for needing time off for treatments.   

 

I was fortunate to create a successful career in Talent Acquisition and Development. I coached people toward their best career. My positive spirit created the image that my life was ‘all good.’  But

inside, I was remarkably unfulfilled.

In my mid 30’s, I was introduced to an Executive Coach. Through Coaching, I understood where and when I was tolerating life situations and not living on my terms.  I realized I had the ability to do more than survive my circumstances and medical issues. 

I could COME ALIVE.

I chose to leave my corporate leadership position to honor the work I love.  I’m now free to be a powerful Coach for my clients. My training, expertise and experiences will connect you to who you can be today and the growth you want.

"She's been through more hell than you'll ever know.  That's what gives her beauty an edge."

- Alfa

I want you to truly and deeply know that you ARE enough and that your life can begin again.
 

It took 15 years for me to embrace my spirit and my body and about five more to make my dreams a priority.  I had to learn that it was ok to want more - to feel alive - and not just survive.  Saying yes to myself didn’t mean I was selfish.  It simply meant “I matter!”


I know how precious life is.  I want you to Come Alive. Your life MATTERS NOW.  Don’t wait – Choose YOU!

With Heaps of Love!

Cheers, 

Paula

You deserve to live and lead your life courageously!

Living the life you want begins with awareness, then making choices that support you.  

Together, we will conquer obstacles and celebrate  YOUR LIFE!

Curious to know more?

Things I'm intentional about....

I am driven to empower women.


Throughout my career I’ve always looked to support other women and help them step into their own light – whatever that may be. I led women’s network and learning groups and created cultures where it’s encouraged to lift each other up. I continue to be a vocal advocate of women (and girls) across the globe. My core sense of being seeks to help her see her worth and unique gifts, so that she may pay it forward.




My strength is my superpower.


I chose to be strong my entire life – usually that was the best choice. For years I saw this as frustrating. I wanted a year to go by without something serious impacting my journey. I have not yet had this; however, all of my experiences allow me the ability to access genuine empathy and insight for myself and my clients. I create connection and synergy with others from my experiences.




I am an eating disorder survivor.


My struggle with my body and food began when I was 14 years old. I was bulimic for 9 years. At first it was a form of control - a way to stay thin. It later became about releasing my emotions. When I work with clients on issues around body image, self-esteem, food and self-care – I REALLY understand it. I want to be sure you never get to the place I found myself in. Now I focus my energy into delivering exceptional coaching and experiences for my clients. Practicing awareness, pausing and being gentle with myself, allow me to continue my lifelong journey of learning and creating a life I love.




I am passionate about animals and their well-being.


The love from animals touches my soul. Animals offer unconditional love. I’ve learned a lot about myself from being kind to animals. Animals are LOVE and I’m dedicated to doing all I can to support their safety. I am a person of action. I sign local and global petitions daily, volunteer at the shelter, foster animals, and speak up for those who don’t have a voice. A dream of mine is to have animal sanctuaries - massive amounts of land where animals of all kinds can roam in peace and live without fear. I’d create a loving and safe home and employ people who mirror my kindness. A Win-Win scenario.




I believe in the power of love.


Love is the most powerful energy. Some use it for global good and others, not so much. As for me, I’m a believer in love and choose to create moments where people feel ‘love’ and appreciation. I’ve seen the impacts kindness and love have. I’m committed to cultivating a world where everyone and everything knows love.




I love to inspire others and speak with an audience.


I regularly share my story and speak about the importance of our attitude and how loving who you are is key to creating the life you deserve.